Andrea Meyer Personal Essay on Having One Child.

Amanda Meyer Personal Essay on Having One Child – Personal Essay on Having a Small Family – ELLE.

I have reposted a beautifully written essay in the link above. I wish more women were open about their struggles with miscarriages, the pressure to conceive, and sometimes not wanting to further expand their family, or have children at all. This essay touches upon the many layers of delicate issues that are often  rarely and reluctantly whispered amongst women.


Photographer Russell Frederick’s Photo Exhibition at “Visa Pour L’Image 2013”


Check out the photo exhibition of the acclaimed and über talented Brooklyn photographer, Russell Frederick. Frederick’s exhibition is entitled “Veiled Beauty: Portraits of a Dying Breed in Bedford Stuyvesant, Brooklyn.” It will be showcased on Sept 4, 2013 at the annual “Visa Pour L’Image” photography festival held in Perpignan, France.

Frederick, the photojournalist, illustrates Bed Stuy as it undergoes transitions due to gentrification and economic disparities. Bed Stuy, once known as the largest black metropolis in America, (during the 80’s and 90’s) was one of the first communities where black people were able to buy land, build homes, open businesses and vote in New York after the Civil War. The pioneering residents in this middle class neighborhood face a seismic shift of separation, as the cost of living expenses steadily rise. Russell Frederick’s photographs are a record of the “Dying Breed.”

Russell Frederick has been photographing the community of Bedford Stuyvesant, Brooklyn for 14 years.

You can learn more about Frederick and his work at

Keeping Dr. King’s “Dream” Alive by Rebuilding America


Today marks the 50th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom where Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his unifying “I Have a Dream” speech on August 28, 1963. This defining moment in history was one of the many catalysts that afforded many Americans, such as myself, the privilege of reading about the unspeakable acts of racism, instead of experiencing it.

I can sit anywhere on a bus. I can go to non-segregated water fountains, bathrooms, schools, restaurants, and swimming pools. I don’t have to worry about being lynched or beaten. I don’t have to fear being hosed down while practicing my constitutional right to protest. I don’t have to worry about serious repercussions for being involved in an interracial relationship. I am truly grateful for these freedoms, and the sacrifices that Dr. King, activists, and everyday people have made to help create this reality.

Despite the progress and achievements, I can’t wholeheartedly say that I’m not judged by the color of my skin, but by the content of my character. Being born in the 80’s, I should have a more positive outlook on certain issues – but I don’t. I initially feared that President Barack Obama wouldn’t win his first presidential election solely because he is black, and if he won, he would be assassinated. Many people don’t like to admit it, but these repulsive scenarios are still very real 50 years after MLK’s speech.

Where is my skepticism coming from? Why is someone who has only seen “whites only” signs in history books and documentaries, have so much mistrust? It’s because Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream Speech” has not completely come into fruition. I often deal with racism, but it’s usually concealed. Most of the time, I try not to think about it so my heart won’t fill with anger. The danger in subliminal racism is that its’ existence can easily be denied; therefore, change never happens. I decided to give my version of Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream Speech” with some of my experiences 50 years after he gave his speech. I am not even attempting to be prolific like Dr. King, but simply want to convey how this speech is still relevant in my world.

I Have a Dream 2013

“I have a dream that I can enter a nice neighborhood and people will believe that I live there, and not profile me and follow me home (it happened to me).  I have a dream that I won’t be treated like a thief when I misplace my receipt when returning/exchanging an item at the store. I have a dream that people won’t assume that I didn’t go to college or that I have children. I have a dream that the black youth will have the freedom to wear any type of clothing in their closet, without it giving people the urge to shoot them.  I have a dream people will stop treating me like a stereotype and/or a statistic.

I have a dream that people will stop pretending that racism doesn’t exist. I have a dream that the justice system will finally be colorblind. I have a dream that racism, whether blatant or covert will be an ancient concept. I have a dream that one day, people will realize that concealed racism in any form is painful. I have a dream that I won’t have to write articles like this.

I have a dream that all races will finally realize that they belong to something bigger – the human race.”

There is a reason why Dr. King made stated,  “1963 is not an end, but a beginning,” in his “I Have a Dream” speech.  He anticipated the long journey ahead, and what Americans would have to endure to reach the destination he dreamed of.  I welcome everyone to join me in hopes of finally chanting, “Free at last, free at last. Thank God almighty, we are free at last!”


Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech.

“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

“Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”

– Unknown